Keep rising ....keep fighting back.....



Yes, I have these moments ..... like any one else..... a lot more nowadays, as I get older... had  one this evening.... but then I have always been a bit of an emotional fool! Like a few others, I think far too much than I should .....about things both necessary and silly  .....and sometimes it makes me end up like this dear old fat cat !!

 But then, I also have my armor, my tools .... to deal with these kind of moments....to get the spring back into my steps. 

 And I think we all should .... know what our tricks are to beat what they call "the blues". 

 It's quite natural to feel low...you are human, after all, some more than others....and people, things, situations, news or likewise, may get you down. Acknowledge that, as I do.....shed a tear or two, as I do....but the trick is not to let it overtake you, overwhelm you for too long. 

 Keep a repertoire of tools and armor at the back of your mind...... know them well and trust them .... then reach for them blindly, when you begin to get that sinking feeling. Don't stop to think too much, just reach out and let them do their magic ....

 I love music. I love walking. I love to feel the cool wind in my hair. These are my armors .....my fight back kit ..... when I am down in the dumps. I put on the loudest peppy music I have on my iPod, my comfy pair of sneakers and go for a walk, by the beach or the marina.....as I did today. The music was so loud, it kind of bashed everything else out of my brains for a while, apart from the beats that made me want to dance to its rhythm. The cold sea wind caressed my cheeks....as if drying any tears that may have fallen. I walked and walked ....only listening to that beat and trying to match it with my steps...and soon the mist cleared, my shoulders no longer drooped as much.... I began to feel better.... I no longer was sad.

 This works mostly, sometimes fails - but I don't stop trying. 

 What's your mechanism to beat the "sads"? Have you thought about it? Do you have a array of tools in a closet that you could reach out for, whenever there seems to be gloom around? It's important that we ask ourselves ....that we know....what to fall back on, when falling seems imminent.....

 Maybe it's a exercise, pushing yourself physically till your mind can't think anymore?

 Maybe it's chewing the brains of a near and dear one, venting? After all, that's also why they are there, right?

 Maybe it's seeking refuge in prayers, in yoga, in reading, in that bar of chocolate .....

 It could be anything, whatever works for you .....but it is important for you to know what that armor is and to keep an easy access to it.....always.
And always remember, as I do, the words of a great man the world lost recently....


Keep rising!

 <3


Comments

  1. Chatterjee R.10 February 2014 at 10:43

    Can relate to this one ver much. Made a very good read. Keep writing bubli di :)

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  2. Indrani Bose10 February 2014 at 22:00

    wonderfully inspiring!

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