Crossroads.... they keep coming back.....

In the roller-coaster called Life, many a time we find ourselves at crossroads - big or small - and one just doesn't know what to do, which way to turn!!!

 I have had a reasonable share too - and for a person like me who likes to know where I am heading, its not the nicest place to be in... 

Yet, that's not a place I want to be stuck in .....patience is not my forte! So, move forward, I must....yet, I often struggled to figure out which way and why. Till I figured out my mechanisms to help me find my direction, when there was none.....

 In times like this, what has worked best for me is to take a step back, try and put both routes into some kind of perspective, if possible, and retrospect....listen to my heart, my soul and usually that does a good job of navigating me to where I should be headed. Ofcourse, when you listen to your heart, there is this great risk of it leading you completely astray....but then you need to fall back on your open mind - the mind that allows you to make mistakes, take responsibility for them, learn from them and move on.

 A critical piece that helps me in addressing Life's crossroads is being totally, if required, even brutally, honest with one's self. I remind myself of the facts, what I can control and what lies beyond.... I clearly articulate my fears and why am I  scared of choosing - maybe it's the fear of rejection, maybe it's the fear of loosing or hurting someone that matters, maybe it's the fear of the unknown...Once I have all these lying on the table, staring me in the face, it's easy for me to decide.

 Life, as I always say, is a matter of choice.

 The last factor that helps me when I stand at crossroads is my faith - that whatever happens, eventually happens for the best. This faith may make me appear naive, stupid even....but allows me to take that plunge and go with my gut, without knowing where or how I will land.... 

 So my tools for combating indecision in my life are the following:

  • Honesty - to myself and others involved 
  • Listening to my heart - paying heed to my gut, intuition, not only my logic
  • Having faith - that someone up there will take care of me, even if I go down the wrong path
  • An open mind - that allows for mistakes and promises to learn from them

Where there are no signs, my tools show the light and I am no more in the darkness.......

I know what I must do. And I keep walking .....

Comments

  1. Subhra28 April 2014 at 07:26

    I love the way you are able to think through so clearly and put it all down so honestly. Love you

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