When feelings are hurt.....forgive!

The numbness is gradually lifting .... as reality sinks in.

I have moved from anger to disappointment, resentment and finally on to hurt in the last few weeks. Now where do I go? All of these feelings are not akin to my inherent nature - I struggle to deal with them all equally. This journey has made me claustrophobic - my restless spirit just has to get out, I want my life back....and none of these shall define my life.

As they say, when you hit rock bottom, the only place to go is possibly up.

My recent past has stripped me of a lot - some over which I had no control, some over which I am sure I had. But bottom line is - that they happened, and I am left stumbling.

And while I pull out all stops on all the positivity that I have ever felt or preached, I have decided to Forgive.....

I forgive myself for whatever my share is in bringing this on - and there must be my fair share in all of this.

I forgive those that have voluntarily left me at this crossroads - they must have their reasons, whether or not I agree with them.

I forgive those that could possibly have changed circumstances but didn't - they must have their own perspectives that I am not aware of and possibly cannot fathom.





And I refuse to be trapped in this jail of bitterness....

Yes, there will be times when I may go back on this journey forward - feel hurt, resentful, disappointed, angry again - but I promise myself not to dwell there for long.

I will move on.

My shepherd will show me the way back to Life!







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