When the limo breaks down ......

I try to keep my posts here and my thinking at all times, positive.

 I sincerely believe in what I write here. I try my best to live it as well. But as expected, I am, many a times, challenged with adverse situations and have no perky answer. I tend to succumb for a while, before I push myself up again.....

 Right now is one such phase.

 I am currently going through possibly my roughest patch in many many years and not really sure how I brought this on to myself ..... new battles seem to be a daily routine....and I am not sure which side of me, if any, is secure. But I am battling it out - as I refuse to give in to what I believe is wrong and unfair.

 And while I am pushed on to a road I would have personally avoided - though I also believe there must be a good reason why I am having to do this - the journey is pushing me more and more up the learning curve! 

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

- Oprah Winfrey


 Those who know me, are well aware that I am a very social person - I have been blessed to always be able to make friends wherever I go. On the family front, too, I have managed, despite distances, to keep reasonable bonds. Yes, I have always had loads to ride the limo with me, as Oprah puts it. 
But today when the limo has broken down, a lot of people around me seem to be shying away - uncomfortable to be seen waiting by my side to take the bus. I am not totally surprised. I know that my "connects" have always been a few, irrespective of all those who also hovered around me.

 I also know that just because they refuse to wait with me at the bus stop, its not that I don't matter to them, it's just that I don't matter enough for them to take a stand. 

 And that's a learning for life.....

 I did not expect all around to understand my journey - no, it is my very own and no one else can fathom my experience. I did not expect those around to be able to do much, though they should be able to see my predicament pretty clearly. What I did expect from some was to simply stand by me and say, I don't know whether you will benefit from me standing here, I can't do much, but I want you to know I am troubled by what you are going through, and I am here for you. I am not shying away simply because these circumstances are uncomfortable for me ....
That is what Life is reminding me - you will always have family and friends all around; but how much you mean to each of them is only to be seen when the limo breaks down.....
So dear reader, do stop for a moment, look around your life and know who these gems are ..... for you should treat them special.... as treasures for life. Hug them more often, send them messages, reach out, tell them you will also be there for them whenever they need you. They are a rare breed. They are your "family".




I am not complaining. I am still blessed to have my real "connects" in my life - standing firmly beside me, while I wait for the bus in a blistering storm. 
And above all, I have with me, One who never abandons his children..... 
I stand tall....still!

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