Yes, you can!

Its been a while.... 

I wish I was more regular at this.... but sometimes life takes over and not always in wrong ways. The river that was flowing at its own pace suddenly picks up speed due to currents or external changes and starts gushing forcefully, still moving towards where it wants to be, but just at a pace that it can't control.

But this morning, as I took time to make myself a cuppa and looked out at the sea as I sipped, a plant I have had for many years now caught my attention. And forced me to reflect......

This plant was a birthday gift to me maybe 4 years ago. Like most indoor plants, its one of those you struggle to keep alive and blooming especially in a place like Dubai. Yet, somehow, this one's a survivor - like me. Many things have changed for this plant - some even adversely, yet it not only survives but even blooms, reaching for the sky, striving to keep life going.

In recent times, I have been affected by how many of us are going through rough, very rough patches. Times are indeed tough these days. You rarely get to meet someone who has no baggage at all. Yet, there are a few,like my plant, that just refuse to give in....

Is it an inherent DNA or sometime we all have or can acquire? This will to survive and bloom, despite all that happens to you.....

I believe we all have it in us - its our indomitable spirit that's transversal. The will to fight back or endure adversity till the clouds lift and then reach for the sky again.... we all want to be happy, we all deserve it.

Some of us just know it is in us; others discover it within themselves as life carries them in its flow; and there are some still struggling to find that strain within them, as they allow themselves to be overwhelmed by their circumstances. 

For those in the last category, I will say ....Yes, I know it can be difficult to see when the world around you seems to be crashing around your ears and all you can barely do is try and breathe...... but don't ever stop believing that you will make it, because you will. The outcome may be very different to the one you are expecting, but the sun will shine again and clouds will disappear. Hang in there. With Faith and Prayer. Believe in yourself. Discover yourself in new things that will give you hope and energy to carry on. Remember, if you want different, you will need to do different. 

Don't ask yourself : why me? That question mostly has no satisfactory answers, instead gets you into a downward spiral that you so don't need. 

Accept. Acknowledge what you can do and what is beyond your control. Choose your actions. Internalize your emotions, give them a lot of time. Be kind to yourself. Look for support. Keep walking.


As Dr. Maya Angelou says : "Still, like air, I rise."

You can, you always can.

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