Being #50andFabulous : Post 4 - Expect to be surprised
Its a new year again - as they say, with new possibilities. And I continue onwards and upwards!
One of the bigger life lessons that has hit home now is that I have to expect change - literally everywhere.... in myself, mentally and physically (and how!!!!), in others - even near and dear ones, at work, in the broader social groups I am a part of, in the world. Yeah, in just about everything!
Change is inevitable - always was - but its current pace can knock the breath out of us born when the world was much simpler. Yet it is there, in your face, and you have really no choice but to deal with it. What is important to understand and remember is that it is your reaction to this change can absolutely make or wreck your lives, hereafter.
Your options in dealing with any change are actually quite simple:
One of the bigger life lessons that has hit home now is that I have to expect change - literally everywhere.... in myself, mentally and physically (and how!!!!), in others - even near and dear ones, at work, in the broader social groups I am a part of, in the world. Yeah, in just about everything!
Change is inevitable - always was - but its current pace can knock the breath out of us born when the world was much simpler. Yet it is there, in your face, and you have really no choice but to deal with it. What is important to understand and remember is that it is your reaction to this change can absolutely make or wreck your lives, hereafter.
Your options in dealing with any change are actually quite simple:
- Get shocked/alarmed/agitated, go into denial and run back to the cave OR
- Take stock, understand, assess and make gradual shifts in your response - so that you don't stop moving and can get adjusted over time to the new scheme of things
I see no other way really - and what you choose decides on how the ride's going to be.
There may be another option - and that's what I am toying with now, and so far, it seems to be working. And that is ....
Expect to be surprised at every step, in every way possible
Because these are different times and in some ways, you are a different you too!
I have now learnt to expect to be surprised - pleasantly or otherwise - every day. And I am mostly not disappointed.
Through this prism, I have started finding those many little things that still haven't changed, and I hold them close if they warm my soul; for those routines that don't seem to be working for me anymore, I look at alternatives. And for the majority that has changed or is transitioning, I allow myself to be amused first of all if I can - I tell myself, you knew it was coming, didn't you? - and then move on to taking stock, assessing how I will deal with it, going forward.
It's a very slight adjustment in approach - but it makes me more open, almost welcoming to so many things that just don't seem synced with my world yesterday.
I have realized that everything now seems to be changing - starting from my own body right down to my relationships. I seem to have had it covered earlier, but now it seems to be slipping away like sand through my fingers. And there's no point in trying to hold on. That's just not to be. Yes, a lot of the change causes discomfort, hurt even, but it's there and has to be dealt with. So I adjust myself to deal as best as I can and move on, trying to control my need to look back as much as I can till I don't feel the need anymore; and I don't believe in regrets.
Lots have changed for me over the last couple of years; and naturally, more is expected. I know that not all of them will be favorable. But I firmly believe in my Shepherd - and that He will not bring me to any mountain that He won't help me surmount. Yes it may take a lot longer than it used to, but I am sure to be able to keep going, because that's why I am here, breathing, living.....
So bring it on 2018; I am open to receive.
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