Recalibrate!

It's an empty nest again....

As my daughter moves on to her next chapter. And I weave mine.

It's time to recalibrate, again. 

I have realized that as we grow older, a lot of us, if not all, begin to feel voids in our lives.. these empty spaces are sometimes small and sometimes gaping holes.  

I used to be an active mom - now I am not
I used to be a daughter - now I am not 
I used to be a sister - now I am not 
I used to be a wife - now I am not 
I used to be a full time employee - now I am not 

Some of these aren't my choices, some clearly are - but that's not the important part; what really matters is that these have spaces  in my heart, soul and in my life that need attention; otherwise it's too easy to feel empty and low. 

 Despite them all, I have opted to live, to renew - onwards and upwards is the only way I know. Hence, the need to recalibrate!

I have learnt to look each void in its eye and I have tried to understand what each of them mean to me - based on that understanding, I have tried to explore ways to manage that space, that emptiness, with no room for regret. And I have found it has renewed me as person. The process continues...

Have I found all the answers? Hell, no! But I am not one to give up; I firmly believe one always has options - one just needs to look hard, keep an open mind and a deep faith. 

True, not all voids in our lives can be filled - but I don't believe in regrets, either. Those voids that will remain in mine will be filled with pretty daisies of happy memories that I will enjoy coming home to, for solace and strength. 

For the others, I am seeking new pastures, new purposes - to channelize my energies and color my tomorrow. I know what I want or will accept and what doesn't resonate anymore. 


The canvas is slowly but surely filling up.
My next chapter.... and I look forward...




To those out there that feel voids seeping into their lives from any quarter - and it could be anything... loss of a loved one or estranged for some reason, change in landscape, circumstances - either through choice or forced.... please don't sweep them under the carpet. 

 Pull them out, stare them in the eye - however painful that is, and think about the impact they are leaving on your today. 

 Look deep within. Be open and honest. Then, recalibrate. 
Repeat till it feels peaceful. 


You renew yourself every day. Sometimes you're successful, sometimes your not, but it's the average that counts.


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