Break that pattern! Own who you are.

I have had an interesting revelation in recent times. 

In continuation of my theme: Renew  - and nudged by certain circumstances, I have recently given up something I really loved doing for years. Everyone around me knew it. 

However, I have realized now that if I want to improve Life as I know it, I will need to try different routes, new things - to keep adding interest and meaning. 

The reactions I have been receiving on account of that single decision of mine was what led me to this revelation. 

We set our own patterns. Consciously and unconsciously, through our choices. People then tend to expect certain reactions from us - aligned to those patterns. Certain behaviors become your hallmark - good or bad. It just goes to "define" who you are, to most people who don't dig deep enough. 

A life motto I follow is:
If you expect different, do different! 

And I am now "doing" different through this recent choice. I am bemused by the reactions I have been receiving; it's almost like I am not going to be "me" because now a particular pattern is broken. It led me to realize how much of one's personality is perceived through what one "sees" - particular sets of behavioral norms that one exhibits - and people expect you to behave in that manner, all the time. If one day, you don't - you almost cease to be you!! 

But who defines you? Or decides what matters to you and when? 
There can only be 1 answer. 

So I say, to all like me, who are looking to renew themselves:

Break that pattern. Own who you are. 

If you are "known" for being headstrong because you speak your mind, pick your battles - for not every bait leads somewhere. Shock them by walking away from those situations. They are not worth it. 

If you are "known" to be bohemian because you lead your life through your own rules, keep making choices that resonate. Show them that your free spirit is not manifested only through the usual suspects - that you carry your own sunshine no matter where you go or what you do. No one can change that. 

If you are "known" to be submissive because you tend to not speak your mind , mostly and go along with the flow, put up some boundaries that all around you will need to respect if they care for you. Hold your ground on these matters and show them that you are no pushover. You matter, too. 

I could go on ... but I guess you get the flow....






And all along the new paths, enjoy the ride and the reactions around. 
Those who know you deeply will totally get you and those who don't, shouldn't matter anyways. 


Give it a try. Trust me - it is cathartic. 

<3

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