Meira's Memoirs / Chapter 5 / A Safe Space

Strife is all too common these days. Probably due to these trying times, almost every relationship I see around seems to be feeling the stretch - and people want to run away from where they feel stuck to a place that will let them "just be"....

I firmly believe we all need our own "safe space" - it could well be an actual place you feel you belong or a relationship that allows you to be you. It's therapeutic!

When it comes to 2 people trying to mend ...anything.... I believe space / environment plays a role too. It is very difficult to heal in the same space you have been hurt - it's not impossible, but it is challenging. Hence the need to move away - physically. And that's where travel comes in ..... it can breathe  new life into a connect you thought was dead, it can rejuvenate hurt hearts and it can help to mend broken wings. 

I was blessed to be able to find such safe spaces for myself and my daughter and it worked it's magic for sure. With each travel together, we grew less sore and more closer to each other ; as individuals, our horizons broadened and our problems diminished in perspective.



Extract from Meira's Memoirs - Mar 2017


By now, I was well and truly hooked onto this drug called travel. I could function well  daily only if I had a countdown ticking on my smartphone to my next destination! I realized that all I seemed to have lost was only preparing me for this life - to be able to travel when and where I wished, to soak in all that I had always dreamt of and to experience true freedom. It was heady!

I kept digging deep into my travel goals and joyfully ticking them off, one by one. 

Also, whilst I had already discovered the joy of traveling solo and with my girlfriends - now I  savored wanderlust with someone who has become my favorite travel buddy, my daughter. And each time we traveled together, we seemed to grow closer, if that’s even possible. 




Noise distracts. Especially if you are trying to heal or mend something broken. It is necessary to get away from all kind of distractions and find a place of solitude and peace that allows you not only to focus on yourselves but actually adds a sense of calm and tranquility to frayed nerves or raw wounds. Many a times, moving physically away to a neutral and peaceful locale aids to set the backdrop of difficult conversations. And if you can leave judgements and assumptions back where you came from, you make much more progress than anticipated. 

There’s definitely some connection between your environment and your own state of mind. For most of us lesser mortals our physical circumstances and landscapes  definitely impact our thoughts whilst there. 

I have always recommended to anyone who wanted to clear the space with someone else - to go into a safe and neutral space and “talk about each other’s feelings”. Even if alignment may not be achieved, you feel safe in expressing yourself and you probably understand each other better. 

And it doesn’t have to be another country, just a walk to the beach or the garden or the hilly roads could suffice. What is key is that it is a neutral place and a peaceful environment - and the connect will begin to prosper….


Iceland was nothing less than therapy. Not only is its natural beauty one of the best I have seen, it’s vastness and solitude cannot but calm your mind, body and soul. 

I discovered my daughter, despite being a city girl, loves the wilderness just as much. We spoke long and deep - we opened gently sores from the past years and tried to start putting things that matter into perspective. I saw no longer a child beside me , but a strong young woman with a mind of her own - someone even I could lean on. It brought out a sigh of peace. It suddenly seemed worth it all. 


Since then, we have travelled together every year - each time to a location very different from the last one. I hold each and every of these trips close to my heart - they showed me how much she had matured - much less a daughter, more a friend and partner!


And I now had found my forever "safe space" .....

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