Dealing with our choices

Back in Dubai today after a short trip to Kolkata....

 Those who know me, also know my passion for the city I was born in and grew up.....the love that remains unscathed, irrespective of all that has changed in my life and in Kolkata!

 Leaving the city and my many loved ones there is always difficult (my friends must be tired of my wails and tears ) - but as I have always said - life is all about choices and I have made mine. My adopted land here in the desert is where I need to be now and when I accept that, it becomes easier .... to come back and adjust to a completely different lifestyle.
Life compels us, nudges us, to sometimes make choices that we don't want - sometimes we'd rather be somewhere else, doing something else, with someone else....but lucky are those few fortunate ones, who manage to have everything they ever wanted. Most, like me, have to accept at times, make choices not always very pleasant and adjust....

 Whenever I have had to make a choice that I was not very comfortable with, I stepped back and tried to place it within a broader perspective - why did I make this choice? what was I aiming for? how is this helping me now? 

 Many times in our routine life, we forget why we chose places, things, people in the first place and then we crib because of our own frustrations..... but that honestly gets you nowhere. Been there, so I know! 

 Its best that we broaden our vision, keep the focus on what our long term goals are, see things that may not be comfortable now or even desirable, as the means to a better end and then make the most of it. 

 So, if things are not going the way you'd want them to.....stop, step back, revisit the basic foundations, think about your goals again and voila, you will have a new perspective .....and somehow, things will not seem as unpleasant anymore! You will see yourself progressing slowly but surely towards what matters to you. And that will make you feel good.

 Keeping that in mind, I look forward once again to Dubai and all things here....keeping my "home" in my heart. 

 Life, bring it on! I am ready and waiting .....







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