What defines a connect?

I have been thinking .... about people within my "inner circle" ....and trying to identify what defines my "connect" with them?

 This was triggered recently by a question I was asked - what makes a connect "precious"?

 I pondered a bit before answering .... and then let it spill, gushing out my thoughts....and in the process realized that it's actually quite difficult to define what or how you connect to people that you do.

 Choices? Chemistry? Physical proximity? Living together? Working together? Thinking alike? What's important? What makes a relationship tick?

 One could be miles apart within a relationship and yet remain strongly bonded, especially using technology these days - as I was with my mom! Through the smartphone, she was a part of my every day, lovingly and even grudgingly, but she lived my life through this technology "connect" in recent times. Much more than she connected with people physically close to her...

 Yet sometimes, the distances grow on relationships and people "grow away" from their near and dear ones, without really meaning to.

 Sometimes, you have nothing in common with someone else and yet you "connect" and keep growing that bond - without really knowing how and why... 

 On the other hand, you may share a strong commonality with someone and yet not have much to speak about when you sit across each other.

 It is indeed difficult to define "connect" .....

 I guess you only can "feel" it! 

 And honestly, that's enough....

 There is really no need to define our connects - as long as it "ticks", there must be something .... just enjoy its radiance! 


Keep connecting .....and count your blessings, each time!

 <3




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