...and after that, Fear has no power!

There was something on my mind ....the past few months.... a situation that I knew would come about, sometime or the other.... and I could never predict which way I would react. And because I was not sure, I may have been possibly trying to avoid the situation in a way.....

 Yesterday, it happened .... and I responded .... in a way that surprised me too. There was no huge explosion inside, it didn't even whimper actually....
And I learnt again ..... 

The best way to deal with our inner most fears or doubts is to confront them..... 

 Instead, most of the times, we shy away as we are not so sure of ourselves and our reactions - we don't know what to expect, but we do expect being uncomfortable and that is enough for us to avoid situations, confrontations, people, reality. 

 Yet, I have always seen that when we do muster up courage or when there is no way to avoid and we have to stare our fear in the eye...... there's usually not much to it..... because a large part of it is actually inside our own heads, in our perceptions of how things must be. Yes, there could also be occasions that confirm your worst fears and facing them does not make anything go away - but what that does tell you is to revisit your choices and understand what you truly control and want to, and what you can't or don't wish to ..... both call for reflection and is critical in unlocking the door to inner peace ..... peace of mind.

 As I learnt yesterday - that I was unnecessarily bothering myself all this while. It was no big deal at all - even I was surprised at my casual reaction. So all along, I was unnecessarily giving space, however small, inside my head ... to a situation that deserved none. 

 I guess we all do, to an extent ... we all have our little niggling doubts and uncertainties that sometimes eat into us, at times, even without our realization. But I have realized one thing more and more these days - that my head and heart and what's inside is precious, very precious - to my being, to my inner peace. I no longer, am agreeable to keep space for anything or anyone that is not conducive to this peace - however close that person or thing could have been to me, at an earlier point in time. I guess I am being selfish in a way - but I like it and I think those who stand where I do in Life, should start being a little more selfish, should start putting themselves and those that truly concern them above all else. There is no dearth of shit around, I can't control that - but I can keep my house in order. 

 I've freed up a little but significant space yesterday - and I am sure the world will conspire to bring me some better stuff to fill in that void, if at all, it exists. 

 I encourage you all to do the same ........ to look within, honestly identify what it is that scares you the most.... face those fears as best as you can ..... and after that, Fear has no power. You are free.

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