My own little world

It's been a while since I started living on my own..... it's just over a month since I dropped my daughter to college and returned home, dreading opening the door to an empty nest.

Yes, I have survived and actually survived rather well. 
 
Technology helped. Hugely. Seeing her on the other side of devices can never replace sitting next to her and hugging her, but being able to see her face while chatting over Skype every day is God-sent and exactly what those empty nesters of yesteryears missed! And the more she seemed to settle down there, the more I was at peace here. Truly an amazing connect - that soothed the soul even  though we were miles apart.

Today I live alone but I am not alone and I am not lonely.
I am blessed, happy and calm.

I am blessed with my inner circle that have never taken their eyes off me, lest I trip. I am blessed with special connects that have given me the space I wanted, whenever I wanted and understood the muddle of my needs, my emotions. Their warmth has engulfed me so much that there has been no space for loneliness. 

I am happy that my little one is learning to fly, that her journey is enriching her life. I am happy that I was able to do what was needed to prepare her for this flight. And I have realized again that when you truly love someone, you don't hesitate to set them free, that their happiness warms your soul even if you are not included in their scheme of things. True love, as cliched as it may sound, is unconditional.

I am far more at peace with myself than I have ever been in years. My life feels enriched and full. I am content. 

Did I ever imagine this is what Life would turn out to be when I pushed the door open upon my return to the empty nest? No! I didn't. 

My daughter worried about how I would cope without her by my side. My friends worried I would get depressed and struggle with loneliness. Even I worried at times that I might not be as brave and courageous as I wished to be. 

Yet it has been ok, so far, in my own little world ..... and I am sure it will get better, going forward.



I have learnt again .....
Not to fear the unknown, but to move ahead with faith, courage and prayer. 
As the saying goes ...in the end, everything will be ok; if it's not ok, it's not yet the end....


And I have learnt more ....
That Life can change its course anytime. Voids may appear unannounced. Yet, you have to learn to fill up those voids, and keep up with the flow. Life gives you many opportunities when you drop your fears and inhibitions and plunge naked into its waves with faith that it will bring you safely to the shores again, cleansed and ready for a fresh lease.


      "I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today."


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