Being #50andFabulous : Post 1 - Celebrate always

It's been a while ..... but I have returned and I am hoping like all true relationships, we can pick up from where we left last time ....

 I have been kinda busy these summer months - growing up and all, exploring more with my princess as we both crossed milestone years - its been a wonderful summer, after a long, long while and I feel more blessed than ever.

 So, now's the time to share...my feelings, my learnings, my aspirations.

 I have decided to start a mini-series : Being #50andFabulous 
( partly because I am so excited to cross over, to see a lot through a different prism now and hence eager to share and partly because I need to discipline myself to come back here more regularly !!! ) 

I have enjoyed growing up, and as a result, growing older.

I have never understood why that thought scares some.... and through this series, I want to share my journey and my learnings in an attempt to not only dispel fears of this inevitable journey, but also show that there is truly so much to look forward to - that is not possible during the earlier phases of this adventure called Life.

So here goes .... 


Recently, a friend told me that he has never seen someone my age be so excited about her birthday and celebrate so much! LOL! That's indeed true .... I do make a big deal of my birthday and celebrate normally for a month atleast. This time, being a milestone year, I started a few months ahead of time :)

My thinking : if I have lived for 5 decades and gone through so much and yet made it through, still smiling - of course that's reason enough to celebrate. To reminisce about every chapter and every emotion that has shaped me as I stand today. To embrace all the learnings, to laugh about all the silly mistakes, to let go of all that pulled me down, to be proud of each time I didn't allow myself to knocked out but fought back valiantly, to sniff in all the flavors of those wondrous memories I have gathered along the way.....

How can all of this not call for celebrations? 

Instead, I have seen that a lot of us keep lofty goals for ourselves, tall orders and thresholds for when we will start living and start to be happy. I am all for targets and aspirations - I keep some myself, too. Yet, I have also seen that some of us focus so much on these big ticket items, that obviously take time and perseverance, we miss a lot of other smaller good stuff happening all around us, right now. 
We miss our chance to smell the roses that bloom today. 
We miss our chance to count our blessings and celebrate being alive today. 

I believe in building a series of celebrations - small daily ones that bring a smile when I feel low and huge big-bang ones, when major milestones are crossed, with a few extras thrown in the middle, just to keep me going!!

At the stage I am in my life, a lot of the big life decisions have either been taken care of or are planned well in advance. Hence I have now shifted my focus to the smaller pleasures of life and I find reason to celebrate almost every other day - today I did my 10K steps, today I survived a horrible day at work, today I took care of my soul, today I said No, today I started something new, today I forgave - there are so many reasons to celebrate everyday if we just look around with those glasses on.

There's so much going wrong all around us, it can be such a dampener; that's all the more reason we need to focus - on finding our happy moments every day and to celebrate them - take lots of pictures - mental or on social media and keep them in your safe of happy memories. 


That's one of the first things I have reconfirmed my faith in as I crossed over - to celebrate always. More so now, as things are now beginning to change so fast, I never know if that moment will ever come back again and I don't believe in living with regrets. So I find my daily happy and hold those precious memories close to my heart. 

and I ask you....

what do you celebrate? and how often? 


“People of our time are losing the power of celebration. Instead of celebrating we seek to be amused or entertained. Celebration is an active state, an act of expressing reverence or appreciation. To be entertained is a passive state--it is to receive pleasure afforded by an amusing act or a spectacle.... Celebration is a confrontation, giving attention to the transcendent meaning of one's actions.
Source: The Wisdom of Heschel” 


Let's never lose that power that is so within our reach, our own control <3

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