The key to happiness.....


Gosh! It seems like a long long time since I have been here ....

The restless spirit has indeed wandered a lot since I last blogged ......so what has my restless spirit come back with?

A suitcase, nay, suitcases full of wonderful memories, priceless moments spent with my immediate family, a zillion pictures in my memory that will possibly stay with me for a life time - each refreshing, calming and a remembrance of good times.

It also has come back with a sense of thankfulness, of being blessed - that it has had the opportunity to roam free and wild, to experience many new things.... and it has returned more humble.

I cannot thank the One Above enough for setting me free for a while - free to roam, to explore, to wander, to soar.......to be happy.

One thing I have always known, but am now firmer in my belief is that the key to your happiness truly lies within ....

Before the trip, during my days of travel and even after I returned to my adopted city and started to relish and relive the memories, I realize more and more that my happiness, my peace of mind is actually my decision and my choice - irrespective of where I am or in what circumstances......

There will always be things that upset, anger, irritate or annoy us in our lives - or atleast in most of our lives; like when I heard something really uncomfortable just as I was about to reach the airport to start my trip, or like when the car we hired didn't have all the features that that we had asked for, or when the weather in one of our destinations was not quite to our benefit - there will always be something that goes against our plans, our intentions.... that causes us to stress or get angry or complain. However, we have to realize that these are really non-issues which we very often mistake for real issues and become victims of the same, allowing them to steal from us what is rightfully ours.....our happiness, our moments, our peace.

That's when we give away the key ..... the key to our happiness!

That's when our mind is messed up by some external party, some external force - that we don't or can't control but that ends up controlling us ..... not in a a nice way, though.

But when I decide that I will not allow any of these non-issues to control my life, when I decide to keep the key to myself and only to myself, I am truly free - to be happy, to be at peace with myself.

As I have seen over the last few days since I was here.

We have to acknowledge that in life, time and again, we may be faced by "real" issues - serious health issues, job loss or financial crisis, broken relationships, loss of a near and dear one and the like - that's when we may really need our wits, our Plan Bs, our reason to stress, worry and all our serious attempts to resolve. These events turn our lives upside down and that's when our happiness is truly at stake.....Let's learn to understand which are the "real" issues...

Moreover, even in such situations, I know of people, who refuse to bow down in the face of adversity and take life head on - because they refuse to part with their key to happiness - even to adversity and on most occasions, they even win.....such is the power of this key!

So henceforth, I am going to hold on to this dear key for life ..... more strongly than I have so far.




Be happy - always!
Hold on to your keys, dear friends.


Back to Dubai Marina
Sept 8, 2013 : 10.00 pm

Comments

  1. Subhra8 September 2013 at 21:53

    Completely agree with you. And this control over the key is important not only for ourselves but also for our little ones who look up to us. It is so so important for them to know that we need to hold on to the key with all our might to withstand the tumultuous forces around. We know our little ones. They will not listen to us. :) They have to see to believe...feel to understand. So am with you my dear friend. Love you.

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