For the restless spirit!

and they will.... rarely have I met a person who has walked through life without being hurt by someone else! It is almost natural and primarily because we as humans, E.X.P.E.C.T.  Thankfully there are also people who will surprise you with their random acts of kindness and support. But this is not maths and I believe the cut from someone close goes deeper. In the course of my life, I have had my fair share of disappointments - some of them really shook my world - but in recent years, I have learnt to deal with such things and eventually look beyond and that's what I wanted to share with you all today.  The first part of disappointment is to acknowledge it - even identifying exactly which part of his/her action hurt you the most. This is an important first step!  The mind naturally then races to the second part - why? why did he/she behave this way? This is the beginning of the most meaningless conversation you can have with yourself. This post-mortem will g...

I have always wanted to live and grow older with grace!   Probably this has to do with my convent school upbringing where grace was an essential part of being a lady :) I have always been that person who prefers to have everything under her control, the person who always knew what she had to do and who progressed towards those goals, personal or professional, with gusto. The one giving directions, supporting others not as focussed and encouraging them to keep moving. More or less, always in top gear - sometimes even when I might have liked a breather!  And then I decided to move onto a new chapter and life taught me new lessons. I grew.  Any journey can never be always on top gear - it shouldn't. The other gears are there for appropriate reasons and they need to be used when the time is right.  I learnt, at work, to step back gradually when the young and the restless were keen to take on the reigns. Holding on then would have been perceived as resistin...

I enrolled myself in a writing course last year - the reason being the course was called "Writing to uncover your authentic self" - too intriguing to let go and I enjoyed writing anyways. It's been a lovely experience so far and I have indeed discovered / rediscovered a lot about myself during the introspection the course encourages.  One recent prompt the course provided was about processing our own emotions / feelings - both good and bad.  The instructions were to think back to as far as we can and then write an essay about how we have been dealing with our emotions over the years. So I reflected... And I quickly realized that typical Indian households - atleast at the time I was growing up - didn't really acknowledge, deal or even discuss much about the kids' emotions. I am sure there were far too many other things going on that demanded priority. Kids, when happy, were maybe given a hug, a special meal or a pat on the back. When sad or scared or angry, ...

Like the bootcut jeans that are thankfully back in vogue, let's bring back LOVE! I have said before and I repeat -  I believe the world has become too full of cynicism - doom and gloom is everywhere you look - our politics, economics, climate, social structures all seem to point southwards and it's no wonder we are scared and stressed or building coping walls with ample dashes of cynicism - what's the point anyways?  Oh,, there still are romances and flowers and cozy dinners and dates no doubt, but few and far in between - and even with those engaging in such romantic activities, I have realized that not all have the deep emotions that Love entails - a lot is done for social media and because that is kind of expected, if you are a couple.  This is not the kind of Love I am referring to - I am talking about some "old school loving" - where you held hands and watched sunsets, talking and connecting to each other about your dreams, your fears and your tomorrow. I am ...

When has Time ever been known to wait for anyone?  Sure enough, the first month of 2023 is fast approaching its close and we seem to have set the tones and vibes for the next 11 months ahead. Personally, the first month of this year has been quite interesting. It started off with Love and Hope - a very dear friend remarried in a beautiful ceremony and we all celebrated the joys of new beginnings, irrespective of what the past might have served. In a world where marriages seem to be crumbling more than laying a solid social foundation, here were 2 people in their midlives, wanting to be swayed up in Love's roller coaster journey believing they could make it beautiful as long as they were together. And I want to believe that they will! And I hope Love will make a big comeback - for all .... the world needs much more of it, for sure.  Professionally, a couple of random opportunities came up and whilst I have not firmed up any as yet, it's always good to...

Year 2022 - the year where the world started its reset from a pandemic that had almost obliterated the last 2 years. And we are already at the fag end of the calendar - that last festive week when people travel to meet their loved ones, to escape from routine, they get together with friends and family to celebrate endings and welcome new beginnings.   As with each year, 2022 has also been a ride - perhaps it was a roller coaster for some whilst it was smooth sailing for the luckier ones. But a ride is a ride - it always takes you somewhere. And what better time than now to look back and see how far we have come?  I have now completed 2 years since I gave up my corporate life and the transition, whilst not quite what I had planned, seems complete. And I have zero regrets! The best way for me to relive the last 12 months is to look through my photo album on my phone (anyone who knows me will know why!!) and what I see reminds me of how blessed I am - as I see so many happy memor...

  The Oxford dictionary meaning of this word "boundary" is "a line which marks the limits of an area, a dividing line". I have always been a proponent of another kind - emotional boundaries - and these have not always been received well. For some reason, boundaries seem to have a slightly negative connotation for many - focusing more on where you can't go. We seem to forget that boundaries are also about respect - for a nation, a community, a home and very importantly, for your own personal space. We are social animals and that's how we have evolved - by doing things together, gaining in strength and gaining in power. Yet as societies evolved, especially in times of globalization, we also struggled to hold on to our individualities. The world has fast become almost a global village with a McDonald's at almost every corner. Many benefits have indeed been accrued by this breaking down of boundaries and I love it too, Yet I believe, somewhere in this journe...