For the restless spirit!

Dec 1, 2023 Suddenly the year seems almost gone and its time for the usual annual reflections - how did it all go for me? did I move the dial in any way?  I have been blessed to have yet another year - pretty much the way I wanted it to be, so personally, no regrets and a lot of gratitude!  This year I also did a few things I had not done before - and each of these experiences have been an opportunity to learn, to grow and to expand my horizons. Courtesy them, I have realized once again that your world can expand and contract just the way you want it to. - if you are mindful enough.  Recently I was in Bengaluru and a dear friend, whilst clicking this picture below, told me about an art installation that she had seen depicting that we can, using our hands, expand or contract our world. It struck a chord!  Till about a year ago, I was busy purging all that I felt no longer served me in my current chapter - old unused belongings, some relationships that had run its cour...

We are social animals.  That's what we have been taught and that's what we believe in. Coming from a small family where we kind of went our own ways very soon, friends quickly became my social safety net - and so it remains. Expat life made this more relevant and the social functions of a family  were almost seamlessly taken over by my amigos, over the years. Today, if I think of a happy gathering of people to celebrate anything, I first think of friends and whatever family remains, follows next.  I am pleasantly surprised by those I see still surrounded by close family members and actually choosing to spend their happy and sad moments with them - I wonder what they did differently to be able to remain this way in a world where friends have mostly become what family used to be!  However, that is not the point of this post - this is about our own sense of community and how growing older has impacted this feeling of belonging for me.  Those who know me well, know ...

Change has always been a keyword in my life. I acknowledge that it is the only constant. Many a time, I have been a frontrunner in bringing about this change - personally and professionally.  Yet, one question has always been at the back of my mind as I worked through Change and People over the years.  Can a person truly change - intrinsically? at the very core?  I am not sure I have an answer, even today!  A large part of my adult and professional life has been dedicated towards helping people develop and grow - through overcoming weaknesses or acquiring appropriate new skills and learned behaviors. The foundation of these endeavors was that people want to and can change and get better, if rightly motivated; even "areas of development" could be worked on, if there was enough intention and resolve. All they needed were the right opportunities, the right support and the right reasons.  Some changes were naturally easier than others, but I believed that if the res...

Last week 2 very close friends from India visited Dubai - and I took some time off to be with them. Two very different kind of people - one I have known since I was 19 years (and we are now 55!) and one that first befriended me when I moved to Dubai 18 years ago. Since they both lived in Delhi, I introduced them to each other and now it's one big happy group :) At the end of the week, we were physically exhausted but mentally so refreshed and wanting more...  It made me realize how lucky I was vis-a-vis my friends - specifically my girlfriends. And I have friends ranging from Kindergarten to my last full time job. I am so grateful for my tribe that keep my life interesting and fun. Each of them are so different from each other and yet there's a strong bond that I share with them all. Despite each of us being separated by geographies or busy personal lives, we have always kept this bond alive by remaining in touch - thank goodness for technology! - and...

and they will.... rarely have I met a person who has walked through life without being hurt by someone else! It is almost natural and primarily because we as humans, E.X.P.E.C.T.  Thankfully there are also people who will surprise you with their random acts of kindness and support. But this is not maths and I believe the cut from someone close goes deeper. In the course of my life, I have had my fair share of disappointments - some of them really shook my world - but in recent years, I have learnt to deal with such things and eventually look beyond and that's what I wanted to share with you all today.  The first part of disappointment is to acknowledge it - even identifying exactly which part of his/her action hurt you the most. This is an important first step!  The mind naturally then races to the second part - why? why did he/she behave this way? This is the beginning of the most meaningless conversation you can have with yourself. This post-mortem will g...

I have always wanted to live and grow older with grace!   Probably this has to do with my convent school upbringing where grace was an essential part of being a lady :) I have always been that person who prefers to have everything under her control, the person who always knew what she had to do and who progressed towards those goals, personal or professional, with gusto. The one giving directions, supporting others not as focussed and encouraging them to keep moving. More or less, always in top gear - sometimes even when I might have liked a breather!  And then I decided to move onto a new chapter and life taught me new lessons. I grew.  Any journey can never be always on top gear - it shouldn't. The other gears are there for appropriate reasons and they need to be used when the time is right.  I learnt, at work, to step back gradually when the young and the restless were keen to take on the reigns. Holding on then would have been perceived as resistin...

I enrolled myself in a writing course last year - the reason being the course was called "Writing to uncover your authentic self" - too intriguing to let go and I enjoyed writing anyways. It's been a lovely experience so far and I have indeed discovered / rediscovered a lot about myself during the introspection the course encourages.  One recent prompt the course provided was about processing our own emotions / feelings - both good and bad.  The instructions were to think back to as far as we can and then write an essay about how we have been dealing with our emotions over the years. So I reflected... And I quickly realized that typical Indian households - atleast at the time I was growing up - didn't really acknowledge, deal or even discuss much about the kids' emotions. I am sure there were far too many other things going on that demanded priority. Kids, when happy, were maybe given a hug, a special meal or a pat on the back. When sad or scared or angry, ...

Like the bootcut jeans that are thankfully back in vogue, let's bring back LOVE! I have said before and I repeat -  I believe the world has become too full of cynicism - doom and gloom is everywhere you look - our politics, economics, climate, social structures all seem to point southwards and it's no wonder we are scared and stressed or building coping walls with ample dashes of cynicism - what's the point anyways?  Oh,, there still are romances and flowers and cozy dinners and dates no doubt, but few and far in between - and even with those engaging in such romantic activities, I have realized that not all have the deep emotions that Love entails - a lot is done for social media and because that is kind of expected, if you are a couple.  This is not the kind of Love I am referring to - I am talking about some "old school loving" - where you held hands and watched sunsets, talking and connecting to each other about your dreams, your fears and your tomorrow. I am ...

When has Time ever been known to wait for anyone?  Sure enough, the first month of 2023 is fast approaching its close and we seem to have set the tones and vibes for the next 11 months ahead. Personally, the first month of this year has been quite interesting. It started off with Love and Hope - a very dear friend remarried in a beautiful ceremony and we all celebrated the joys of new beginnings, irrespective of what the past might have served. In a world where marriages seem to be crumbling more than laying a solid social foundation, here were 2 people in their midlives, wanting to be swayed up in Love's roller coaster journey believing they could make it beautiful as long as they were together. And I want to believe that they will! And I hope Love will make a big comeback - for all .... the world needs much more of it, for sure.  Professionally, a couple of random opportunities came up and whilst I have not firmed up any as yet, it's always good to...