My friendship circle has changed a bit .......

Forgive and forget! That's what I was taught in convent school - since I was a little child. This one has always perplexed me - sometimes I forgive, truly, from the heart - but somehow, I have never been able to forget.... And I am also not sure whether one should really "forget" .... yes, I agree you cannot leave a wound raw... and even if you did, Nature will heal it for you, to an extent, over time. But should you really forget what caused that wound? Why you felt that pain? If one was to forget - one would have to go through the learning curve yet again.....is that ideal? It's like if the candlelight singed my finger, I would now know that I should not play with fire again - and that should decide my future course of action when it comes to anything related to fire. If I "forgot" this experience, I would do it again and feel the pain, right?? I am all for learning and moving on..... but completely "forgetting" ....not so sure, real...